What to Expect at a Jacks Event

So you've decided to take the plunge and come to your first Event. It's perfectly normal to feel a little nervous since you don't really know what to expect. Well, we've all been there and with a few exceptions, we all felt that same nervousness the first time any of us walked into our first circle jerk. For the great majority who have come before you, that nervousness was all but forgotten just a few minutes into the event. Here's a little info about what to expect.

There are three kinds of events:

"REGULAR" events take place on a regular schedule in a specific play space we rent for the occasions. Currently, we host three regular events every month, on the 1st and 3rd Thursday evenings of every month, and on the last Sunday of every month.
"SPECIAL" events occur outside of the regular schedule, and include outdoor events, limited-space events (like hotel rooms) holiday events and events co-hosted by RCJ and other JO groups.
"PRIVATE" events are not officially sponsored by the club, but are hosted by individual members and may be limited to select members of the host's choosing. Private events may be openly advertised on the group's mailing list, but under no circumstances may any reference, either overt or subtle, be made to oral or anal sex. No individual may use the Jacks to seek oral or anal sex.

Masturbation is the main activity, with some stroking solo, some in pairs and some in groups of three or more. The events are fluid, with some members playing for awhile in different areas of the room and with different partners. Despite the name, a "circle jerk" rarely happens in an actual circle. Men gravitate to the connections that appeal to them and the individual tastes of every person are always honored.

Advance notice is given for each event, using evite. All invited members are encouraged to reply and let the host know if they plan to attend, but it is not required. A paid or charter RCJ member may just show up at any regular event and be admitted without making a reservation. Members must display their membership cards to gain admittance. Charter and new members who do not yet have their cards can pick them up at the door on the night of the event.

All club members are welcome to sponsor new members. When a current member of the Jacks brings a new guy to an event, and checks in at the door at the same time, the sponsoring member gets free admission to the event as a thank you for spreading the word about the club.

Non-alcoholic beverages are provided free of charge, as are fresh apples (which often taste amazingly good after jacking off for two or three hours). Alcoholic beverages are NOT provided or permitted at the event for legal reasons, as well as the discomfort some members feel with the presence of alcohol. Illegal drugs of any kind are also not permitted. If a member needs to "loosen up" before an event, there are usually local bars and restaurants near the event sites. Please do not come to any event drunk. Intoxication will not be permitted and you may be asked to leave.

Likewise, it is just common courtesy that you also brush your teeth and gargle before a circle jerk. Same goes for showering if you're a little overly-funky at the end of the work day. A little manscent is nice, but a little goes a long way in a crowded play room full of naked men jacking off and breathing heavily. mouthwash and mints are also provided.

If you're sick with anything at all that may be contagious, please do not come to the event. There will be another one and nobody wants to get your bad cold. Take it easy and sit this one out.

First thing that happens when you arrive is you check in. You show up during the first hour of the event with your membership card and event fee in hand. The check-in table is outside the play space with two or three of the club staff checking in current members and signing up new ones.

New members show up and fill out the enrollment form and membership agreement, and they show a legal ID to prove their identity and age (we require that every member be at least 18 years old to join the club) and then make pay their first annual dues payment and pay the event fee. For virtually every member, that is $40 total. We then give that new member their RCJ membership card which entitles them to entry to all RCJ events for a year when paying their appropriate event fee (for more information about event fees and annual club dues, visit our Membership page).

Member can then enter the play space, check their clothes and enjoy the event. New members have an extra step...

Before any new member enters his first event, one of the club staff takes him through a brief orientation. We make sure he understands perfectly the Code of Conduct, and any other specific information he needs. We also make clear that the staff is available for them all through the event, to answer questions or just chat. We care deeply that every new member have a positive experience of the club and of group JO.

New members are then escorted inside. We show them where the rest room is, where the refreshments are located and where the play space is. They are then brought to the changing room where a staff member is on duty all through the event to secure our members' clothing and to answer any and all questions.

The clothes checker also offers every member a red silicone wrist band. Many members and new members in particular take advantage of the red band system, which serves as a signal to all member that the wearer is not to be touched sexual without explicit permission. It is basically a sign that means, "ask first." It's also a reminder that all members are in charge of their own bodies and may not be pressured at any time to do anything they are not interested in doing.

So then you're naked and ready to play. Nudity is mandatory. You can leave your underwear or a jock on for awhile if you're a little nervous or modest (or turned on by underwear) but nudity is the norm, and everyone is almost always naked within the first hour. If you wear a jock or underwear, don't leave it behind!

When you first walk into the play space, you notice that some guys are hanging around naked, most are displaying erect cocks, mostly already lubricated. Many are already stroking themselves and/or others. This first experience of seeing many men openly masturbating and displaying hard dicks without hiding can be a minor shock for the newcomer, even though he may have imagined it for years. The reality can be startling and intense.

It's a good idea to take your time when you first enter the play room, checking out if the guys you want to play with are interested. You can approach them and try just touching an arm or nipple or contacting thigh to thigh. More likely someone will simply offer to touch your penis and you'll find yourself right at it, jacking another man off while he jacks you. It is absolutely alright to say, "No, thanks" and wait until a situation feels right to you.

Many of our members identify as straight. The behavior that will often set these guys apart is a lack of interest in expressing affection. A straight guy will be into jacking off and watching others, but will probably not get into activities like kissing. Since 65% of our membership identify as gay and another 25% identify as bisexual, there will be kissing and displays of more intimate sensuality in addition to masturbation. Some guys like to kiss, some don't. We all learn how to be aware of and sensitive to each others' preferences and boundaries and to naturally gravitate to guys we naturally connect with. NEVER pressure anyone who indicates that they don't want to do something. You don't want to be pressured into doing anything YOU don't want to do so treat every individual with respect.

So what's okay other than JO? It is a JO club after all... Nipple sucking is allowed, self-jacking is allowed, ball-play is allowed. C2C is allowed (rubbing cocks together) and lots of sensual touch.

Lube is provided in the form of Albolene, a Vaseline-like makeup remover that liquefies at body temperature. The lube is portioned into small containers which sit in bowls distributed liberally around the play space. There are also many rolls of paper towels for wiping up cum and lube. Unscented baby wipes are also provided for fast clean-up at the end of the night. Used paper towels and baby wipes should be deposited in the many trash receptacles placed around the area.

What's not allowed? No fucking, no sucking, no anal contact at all, including anal self-stimulation (for health reasons). Basically, no lips below the hips and nothing goes inside anyone. So, for example, it's okay to touch, squeeze and stroke another guy's butt, but the fingers may not make contact with the anus.

We are self-policing, but when members violate the Code of Conduct, they get a warning and if they continue to disregard the rules, they are removed from the event immediately and their membership may be terminated on the spot. There are always several club staff and officers present at every event.

As play progresses, and long after the nerves have disappeared, guys will start to cum. You may freely shoot your load on the floor or on yourself. We generally discourage shooting cum on other members, but it is not a hard-and-fast rule. We do allow members to ejaculate on each other, but only if your buddy indicates a desire. You may shoot on his legs, chest or stomach. Avoid getting cum on anyone else's cock, ass or face. It is always okay to shoot on any surface that has been covered for that purpose. After shooting a load, it is customary to clean up the cum from bodies and surfaces. Generally, several members will be right there to help.

You may want to rest or stop for the night or play again. It is not uncommon for guys to cum two, three or more times in a single event. Many guys cum once and some don't cum at all. The events are not about cumming, but about the experience that usually leads up to it. It's up to each individual to stay or go at any time.

Talking in the play space is okay, but we all need to exercise discretion. If guys are being sexual nearby, don't be a distraction. Speak quietly. The events are very friendly and sometimes anxiety is managed by talking. It is a matter of common courtesy that "chatter" be kept to a minimum if anyone is playing within earshot. Avoid having a conversation in any room where there is play going on. Move to an unoccupied area and speak softly so as not to break the energy in the playroom. Generally, the refreshment area is okay for conversation, as is the area outside the entrance. Let everyone have the space and time they need to enjoy themselves: Please keep talk to a minimum. Save it for the afterglow party.

There are a few brief phrases and signals we use as a club:

"No Thanks" means, well, no thanks! If you don't want to do something, that's what you say to respectfully express yourself. Don't be cruel or disrespectful and if someone says "No Thanks" to you, accept it and move on.
"Stop" means something very specific: it means, "I'm about to cum and I want to hold off." Some guys will say it over and over, all night sometimes, and edge to an explosive orgasm. if someone says "stop," do so INSTANTLY and wait. It's totally up to each person to cum whenever they want to or wait as long as they want to.
"Ouch" or "Ow" usually means someone is nibbling on a nipple too hard. Take it easy. Ouch can also mean someone is being leaned on, crushed or just got stepped on. Be aware of your surroundings. It can get crowded in the playroom.
"Break Time" means someone needs a breather and will step out of the action for a few seconds or minutes.

When you're ready to call it a night, head for the bathroom for a quick clean-up. There is no shower in the play space, and only one bathroom, so please be mindful of your fellow Jacks and clean up quickly so the next guy can get a chance. Baby wipes are also provided for quick lube removal.

At the end of the night, the host will come around and gently let any remaining jackers know that it is time to pack up and head home.

Sometimes, a group of Jacks will convene at a local pub after an event for a little afterglow party. It's a good way to connect with your new friends and talk about the event you all just experienced, It's generally very friendly and low key (since everyone is pretty spent at that point anyway).

And that is how it all works! Now you just have to find out for yourself what it feels like to jack-off with a room full of other horny guys. ;)

updated 1 September 2006